How to Build a Good Personality

Make sure you have a godly disposition! 

“Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect. For through the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think more highly of himself than he ought to think; but to think so as to have sound judgment, as God has allotted to each a measure of faith. For just as we have many members in one body and all the members do not have the same function, so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. Since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to exercise them accordingly: if prophecy, according to the proportion of his faith; if, in his serving; or he who teaches, in his teaching; or he who exhorts, in his exhortation; he who gives, with liberality; he who leads, with diligence; he who shows mercy, with cheerfulness. Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love; give preference to one another in honor; not lagging behind in diligence, fervent in spirit, serving the Lord; rejoicing in hope, persevering in tribulation, devoted to prayer, contributing to the needs of the saints, practicing hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep. Be of the same mind toward one another; do not be haughty in mind, but associate with the lowly. Do not be wise in your own estimation. Never pay back evil for evil to anyone. Respect what is right in the sight of all men. If possible, so far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men. Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. “But if your enemy is hungry, feed him, and if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12

“For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.” 2 Peter 1:5-7

Do people treat you unfairly? Have you ever wondered why? Well, we live in a fallen world and we are all filled with sin. Sin affects our relationships and personality, the way we treat people and the way they treat us. Yet, even in sin and temperament differences, we have the choice to make a difference and we do that by growing in Yeshua. It is important to take an honest self-assessment in regards to this. When we are growing in Him, and producing fruit and character that glorifies our Lord, we are exercising the true, important substance of our personality. It provides an example to those around us that ee have been touched by Yeshua.

  1. What does it mean to be a mature Christian? What are you willing to do about it?
  2. Are you an “introvert” (shy person) or an “extrovert” (outgoing person)? What are some of the positive and negative features of each?
  3. You were made with a unique personality, formed for the purpose and reason of glorifying Yeshua. What can you do to learn about your personality and temperament so you can generate more of the “proof” of the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:21-22)?
  4. How and why is character the most significant aspect of your personality? What can you do to improve your character?

Take a moment and listen to this song ( It gives a very practical introduction of what it looks like to be a disciple.

Hopefully, these suggestions will help you in the process of improving who and how you behave. Ask God to reveal something you had not thought of or have previously considered unimportant. Then, you might be able to identify flaws in your spiritual walk. Always operate yourself in the parameters of the Fruit of the Spirit and Love (1 Corinthians 13; Colossians 1; 2 Peter 1:5-7).

Consider how you would like to be treated. You are a friendly person when you can be yourself in the unique and special way that God created you. Be authentic and real. At the same time, be tempered by godly character so the Fruit of the Spirit is real and flowing through you! Taking your cue from Galatians 5:22-25, make sure verses 19-21 do not happen to you! The key aspect in helping you improve yourself and your personality will be how much time you spend in improving your spiritual life! This is what builds the fullness, character, and love we have been called to produce.

Thoughts to Consider:

  • Understand who Yeshua is and what He did for you!
  • Understand that God loves you and wants your life to have purpose and meaning. God so loved________, that he gave his only Son that when ___________believes in Him, he/she should not perish, but have everlasting life (Insert your name in the blanks). You may ask, If this is true, why is it that not everyone has a happy and meaningful life? It is because most people do not put it into practice!
  • Understand that spiritual richness does not just happen. You have to work at it; you have to grow in your faith and maturity, but you cannot do it alone. Allow the Spirit to work in you and allow others to sharpen you! When we have a healthy grasp of our redemption and the ways and means of the Gospel working in us, then our self-esteem should be spilling over with Yeshua-esteem. For Christians, the most significant thing in the universe is who we are to Yeshua! We should never feel insecure or have a “poor me” attitude when we have Yeshua in our lives (Matthew 12:33-37; 15: 1-20; Galatians 6: 3-5, 10; James 3:1-12).

Key ways to improve our personality:

  • Commit ourselves to Yeshua, who gives us wholeness and character!
  • Make sure our personality traits and traditions match up with Scripture!
  • Get rid of personality traits and traditions that conflict with Scripture!
  • Become increasingly aware that our goal in life is to glorify our Lord!
  • Commit to honor our Lord in all that we do, that means our thoughts and actions as well as our words!

When we are doing the above:

  • We will realize that His grace is sufficient!
  • We will have a thirst for righteousness!
  • We will be speaking words that edify others, and bringing Yeshua glory because those words are attuned to Christian commitment!
  • We will be using the resources that our Lord has given us with which to live a triumphant life!
  • We will be taking the love and compassion He has given us to help others in need!


  1. How do I come across to others?
  2. What are the positive aspects of my personality that make people like me?
  3. What are the positive aspects of my personality that correspond with the good character found in Scripture?
  4. What personality traits do I emulate that may turn people away?
  5. What personality traits do I emulate that may correspond to the bad character found in Scripture?
  6. Why do certain people not like me? Is it their fault, or does it have something to do with how I come across to them?
  7. Do others see me as an attractive person (appealing personality, not looks), so they want to be around me, or do they seek to avoid me?
  8. Has there been significant trauma and/or dysfunction in my life that has contributed, in a dysfunctional way, to my personality?
  9. What can I do about it?

Scriptures on How to Build a Good Personality: Matthew 7; John 15; Romans 12; 1 Corinthians 13; Galatians 5:19-26; 6:1-2; Colossians 1; 2 Peter 1:5-7

To Improve Our Personality: Matthew 4:18-20; 5:22, 37; 12: 33-37; 15:1-20; 2 Corinthians 12:20; Ephesians 4; 1Timothy 1:10; James 3:6; Revelation 21:8

Commitment to Yeshua: Joshua 1:8; Psalm 1; 42:1; 63:1; Matthew 6:33; Mark 1:16; 8:34; 12:30; John 15:1-11; 17:3; Romans 8:29; 12:1, 2; 1 Corinthians 10:31; 2 Corinthians 5:15; Philippians 1:21; Revelation 4:10-11; 5:12

Commitment to the Body of Yeshua: John 13:33-15:12, 18; 17:21; Ephesians 4:11-16; Colossians 1:28, 29; 2 Timothy 2:2; Hebrews 10:24, 25

Commitment to the Mission of Yeshua: Genesis 12:1-3; Daniel 12:3; Proverbs 11:30; Matthew 9:37-ff; 28:19; Mark 1:17; 12:31; 6:15; John 17:34; Acts 1:8-28:30; 2 Corinthians 5:18-20; Galatians 6: 3-5, 10-ff

Becoming a Mature Christian: Matthew 11:25-30; 12:33; John 1:12; 3:16; Romans 10:9; 1 Corinthians 12-14; Ephesians 4:7-15; 5:18; 1 Timothy 3:14-16; James 4:6; 2 Peter 1:5-7; Revelation 3:20

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Yeshua.” Galatians 6:2

© 1988; 2006 Richard J. Krejcir Ph.D. Into Thy Word Ministries

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